Importance of a Support System

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From the moment you see that little blue line you are pregnant and delighted (maybe a little frightened, but it’s all relative) Your search begins before you’ve even left the building. So much to learn, so much to do, so exciting! 

But where do you start? Especially if this is your first pregnancy? You need to find a doctor or midwife, book your first ultrasound, get blood tests, make sure you’re eating the right stuff, doing the right exercise, take a class, start prenatal yoga…. and which do  you do first? 

For many women, it can  be a  lonely time and it can seem a bit daunting.

But it doesn’t have to be this way. In fact, I actively encourage you to find yourself a solid support system. It’s why I created the Due Date Club

Being pregnant together is the perfect breeding ground for lifelong friendships. I am still part of groups of friends who met in my classes 18 years ago (and those “babies” are almost adults themselves!)   

Here’s a few more reasons a support system is so fundamental to a healthy pregnancy.

Support Of A Husband Or Partner

Be open with your partner, tell them about the changes that you are going through. Give him/her a book and ask them to read it so that they can be informed with that knowledge and understand why you ask them to find you doughnuts and sardines at two in the morning. Remember that your partner is also going through an enormous life change and also needs some emotional support. I have a dedicated space for partner support in The Due Date Club and I have created a course just for them. That’s how important their support is. 

Support Of Family

There is a saying that we can choose our friends, but we can’t choose our family. And yet your family, especially your mum and dad, knows you so well and they want the best for you. Also, grandparents make excellent babysitters. They can be an amazing support system because they have done it all and they have gone through exactly what you are going through. You may be frustrated because they will question the level of intervention that is available and will compare things to how it was for them. I urge you to listen. The history of childbirth is fascinating and you will gain some valuable insights. I can guarantee that they felt exactly the same as you do right now. Ask them about their experience of pregnancy, labor and birth.  

Support Of Friends

In today’s society, many people feel closer to their friends than their family. Maybe you’re an expat and you’re far from home. Now more than ever, your friendship circles are vital.  There might be questions that you don’t feel comfortable asking your family members that you can ask your friends. If they have had children recently consider asking them the following questions: 

  1. What was the best part about being pregnant? 
  2. What is your best memory of being in labor? 
  3. What do you wish someone had told you? 
  4. Is there anything you would do differently? 
  5. What would you do the same again? 

If they had a difficult or traumatic birth experience that they have not had support or counselling for, you are not the right person to help them process it. 

Support Group

The Due Date Club is a a community buzzing with excited pregnant women.  A place where you can  be totally immersed in the experience. A place where you can share each significant moment no matter how big or small. An opportunity to connect with other pregnant women, make friends and learn from those who’ve been there before.

Compare symptoms, start conversations and share your own tips, tricks and favourite things. 

You don’t want to spend precious time worrying and anxious. Pregnancy is meant to be celebrated and enjoyed.

You Are Not Alone

Whether you decide to find support from your friends and family, a support group, your partner, or all of them, the good thing is that there is support out there for you. You don’t have to go this alone. When mums-to-be receive support in their pregnancy, their babies are healthier and better adjusted because a happy mother will have a happy baby. And you deserve to have a happy pregnancy.

 

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