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The Virtual Midwife started long before the pandemic made it necessary for me to be able to offer my services online. Like all the best things in life, it grew in response to a need. The need to stay connected to couples I assisted during pregnancy and birth in subsequent pregnancies.
What started out as a small chat group, grew to offering online classes and subsequently to creating bespoke support packages and The Due Date Club.
I continue to deepen my practice (Prenatal Yoga, Hypnotherapist, Hypnobirthing, MARI) so that I am able to offer balanced, researched information along with years of experience as a hospital and home birth midwife.
Karen Wilmot - The Virtual Midwife
Every birth I have attended has changed me on some level and taught me something about the incredible wisdom of women and babies. I still practice, but I now attend mainly home birth where you have autonomy over your body and your choices.
I host regular online workshops as I believe that it is only through effective education and sharing of information that the landscape of birth will change so that all women will be given the freedom of choice based on evidence based practice.
We can not separate body, mind and breath. I was drawn to study yoga through my experience of working with women who practiced yoga and I saw the difference it made during labor and birth. I incorporate powerful breathing techniques into all my teachings.
I’ve been a midwife for 30 years and I have watched trends come and go, seen birth practices change. But even so, nothing about the physiology of birth has changed. Eveything you need is already inside of you. Let me guide you to access your inner resources and knowing.
International Conference Speaking Experience
1st Annual GCC Natural Birth & Breastfeeding Conference 2015, Sharjah, United Arab Emirates: Finding our WHY in Antenatal Education – the impact of informing and empowering women to restore normality to childbirth.
27 – 29 March 2016 Dubai , Obstetrics and Gynaecology Congress : Embracing technnology in Antenatal Education
16 October 2016 Inherent Birth Online Summit: The mother’s role in attaining better birth outcomes and Birthing the Maternal Bond.
March 2018 FIGT (Families in Global Transition) The Hague, Netherlands: Health Literacy for Global Living – using technolgy wisely to inform and empower women during pregnancy.
May 2018 Sensitive Midwifery Conference JHB: Technology and increased access to vast amounts of information online: enemy or ally?
Karen is on the organising committee of of the Virtual International Day of the Midwife annual 24hour conference.
A pioneer of change, Karen opened the first independent midwife led community practice in Muscat, Oman in 2009 which later became the first Mother and Baby Wellness Center in the Gulf region.
My story – the birth of a midwife
I often feel as if I need to put a DISCLAIMER notice up because I am a midwife with no children of my own. In other words, I have not experienced pregnancy or childbirth myself, even though I have attended so many births and taught so many childbirth classes.
But it never started off this way.
I grew up in Port Elizabeth, South Africa, the youngest of 3 children in a busy household where my mother was a midwife and my early years were full of her stories of brave women and incredible births. Even back then the idea of birth filled me with awe and I knew that I wanted to follow in my mother’s footsteps.
I recall thinking about having babies from a very young age. I recall my mom finding me under the dining room table drinking milk (which I hated) and trying to breastfeed my doll. I could always be found visiting neighbours with babies, if there was a new baby in town, I would find it.
So there was no doubt in my mind that I would become a midwife and a mother. During my student years I was like a sponge soaking up everything I saw and learned. I marvelled at how although the physiology of birth was the same, every women responded differently. This fascinated me and started my quest to explore the impact of preparation on the experience of birth.
Over the years I brought these tools into the labor room and and continued to add the learnings from each birth into my own birth toolbox, marvelling at how simple techniques could transform a difficult birth.
Fast forward 30 years and hundreds of births and not one of them my own. Many women have questioned how I am able to be a “good midwife” without personal experience.
The only thing I can say is that I was and always will be a midwife. My learning began as a child, listening to the stories my mother told me and connecting with the joy and wonder of pregnancy and birth. It continued through my student years and into the work that I still do today. Becoming a midwife did not hinge on personal experience of birth. Surprisingly, it has made me the best version of myself guiding me to never stop listening and learning from mothers. It opened me to possibilities that I might never have considered. If I had my own experience, it would be one more experience to add to the thousands that have shaped me and that allow me to guide you through your own unique and magical journey.